Imagining Your Future Self: A 90-Day Perspective Exercise

28 Dec, 2024 | 4 min

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Have you ever thought about the person you’ll be in just three months? Often, we underestimate how much we can grow in a short period of time. Despite the evidence from our own lives—our changing tastes, habits, and goals—we can get stuck in the mindset that who we are now is who we’ll always be. But our ability to evolve into our future self is one of our greatest strengths.

Imagining your future self isn’t about setting far-off goals or idealized resolutions; it’s about a manageable, 90-day leap into the near future. Here’s a simple exercise to open doors to growth, clarity, and the motivation that comes from picturing the person you’re on track to become.


Why Imagining Your Future Self Is So Powerful

Let’s face it—imagining ourselves in the future doesn’t always come naturally. As psychologist Dan Gilbert discusses, we often underestimate our capacity for change, even though we know from experience that it’s real. Think about the music you loved 10 years ago. Would you pay to see that same band today? Probably not! Our tastes and perspectives evolve constantly, yet we often find it hard to project that same growth forward.

Imagining your future self is about bridging that gap. Who you are today is different from who you’ll be, even just three months from now. This exercise gives you permission to connect with your goals and dreams, without feeling like you’re setting impossible standards.


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Step 1: Meet Your 90-Day Future Self

You’re not looking at some distant, idealized version of yourself. Instead, picture you just 90 days down the line. This is your December self talking to your September self, sharing insights, victories, and accomplishments from the perspective of someone who’s been through the coming months. She’s not far off, but she’s gained wisdom, clarity, and maybe even achieved some goals you’re working on right now.

Imagine this version of yourself. What has she done to get where she is? What actions did she take that you’re only just starting to consider? This isn’t about massive transformation; it’s about the intentional steps you can take in the next three months.


Step 2: Envision What Your Future Self Has Accomplished

Let’s get specific. Think of a few areas of your life you’d like to focus on—this could be work, personal growth, family, or even those mundane tasks you keep putting off. Now, imagine the actions your future self took to reach her goals:

  • Did she set aside time each week to work on that project?
  • Did she finally tackle that lingering administrative task (like taxes!) that always felt daunting?
  • Did she prioritize self-care, creative exploration, or professional growth?

It’s about picturing what she did differently, even if it’s as simple as sending an email or booking an appointment. Maybe she blocked specific time on her calendar or initiated a conversation she’d been avoiding. Imagining these steps reveals the mindset shifts that will help you achieve your goals.


Step 3: Visualize the Details

One of the most impactful parts of this exercise is focusing on the details. You don’t have to predict the future perfectly, but connecting with specifics can solidify your goals and boost your confidence. Imagine yourself in a setting—at a meeting, perhaps, where your hard work is recognized, or at home, enjoying a quiet moment of self-reflection.

Visualizing these specifics isn’t about “manifesting”; it’s about creating mental connections with the reality of those possibilities. When you give yourself permission to explore the details, you connect more deeply with what you want to achieve.

For example, in a similar exercise, I worried about an email I hadn’t received a response to. My future self reminded me that even if that response never came, I had options and could move forward. This kind of visualization isn’t about controlling outcomes; it’s about grounding yourself in the understanding that you’ll find ways forward, no matter what.


Step 4: Focus on Gains, Not Gaps

As you go through this exercise, keep a gains mindset. It’s easy to look back and fixate on what you didn’t accomplish, but this exercise encourages you to focus on what you’ve gained and how far you’ve come. Your future self isn’t about what’s missing; she’s about what’s been achieved, the steps taken, and the personal growth experienced along the way.

Let’s say you aimed to exercise more. Perhaps you didn’t stick to a rigid schedule, but you managed to add movement to your day in ways that felt enjoyable and sustainable. Recognize these wins, big or small, and celebrate the progress.


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Final Thoughts: Connecting with Possibility

This 90-day exercise is a powerful way to connect with your future potential in a manageable, actionable way. Imagining your future self as someone just a few months ahead makes it easier to believe in achievable change. The best part? There’s no pressure to be perfect. Instead, you’re practicing connecting to outcomes, identifying steps forward, and nurturing the mindset shifts that will help you grow.

So, take a moment to reflect. Picture your future self in three months. What has she accomplished? How does she feel? And what steps can you take today to start aligning with that vision?

Imagining your future self is a chance to connect your past, present, and future in a way that adds meaning to your journey—every step of the way.


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Career Mum Coach | ACC Executive Coach

Meet Tania!

With three energetic kids, I know what it’s like to have to juggle your career goals and desire to be a good parent. That’s why I’m so passionate about helping working mums manage your time in the best way, so you can spend quality time with your kids and still find the courage to go after what you want in life.

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