How to Practice Presence Daily: A Guide for Busy Parents

As parents, we’re often pulled in a million directions—between work deadlines, school pick-ups, dinner preparations, and managing the household, it’s no wonder we feel stretched thin. And while we all want to be more present with our kids and find ways to practice presence, the reality is that staying in the moment can feel nearly impossible when your mind is constantly running through to-do lists.

Here’s the thing: being present doesn’t mean having to stop everything and focus 100% on your kids 24/7. In fact, the best way to practice presence is surprisingly counterintuitive—it’s about slowing down. When we slow down, we create space to truly engage with what’s happening in front of us, whether it’s a conversation with our children, an important project at work, or even a quiet moment with ourselves.

In this blog post, I’m going to share practical tips for being present with your family (and yourself!) in a way that feels sustainable and achievable.

Why Is It So Hard to Be Present?

Before we dive into the how, let’s talk about the why. Why is it so hard to stay present?

For most of us, it’s because we live in a world that demands constant multitasking. We’re bombarded with notifications, deadlines, and competing responsibilities. We’ve also been conditioned to think that productivity means doing more, faster. And when we do manage to slow down, our minds often drift to the next thing on our list, or we feel guilty for not getting “enough” done.

But here’s the truth: being busy doesn’t make us more productive—it just makes us more scattered. Slowing down, even in small moments, allows us to focus, be intentional, and connect more deeply with ourselves and those around us.

The reason why we find it hard at times to be present is because it is uncomfortable for most of us to leave things unfinished. There is this sense of hopelessness that comes with unfinished tasks from work or home. It is never ending and never enough. That is because we are letting this define how we feel.

Instead, we need to understand where is the discomfort coming from. Is it the need to please everyone? Is it hard to say no and set realistic expectations? There is no magic formula here. Time is not finite so there will always be more to do.

Before anything, when we feel the rush, we usually feel threatened by something.

“Rushing is actually telling your brain that there is a threat” – Sam Qurashi

Where is the threat coming from? Is it the fear of failing or the guilt we may be feeling inside? This needs attention before we even think about prioritising and being present.

Once you have spent time understanding those internal triggers, some more tips can be useful when it comes to practicing presence:

Tip 1: Ask Yourself What Really Matters Right Now

When you feel overwhelmed by the demands of your day, take a moment to pause and ask yourself: What matters most in this moment?

This simple question helps you cut through the noise and focus on the things that actually need your attention. It might be finishing a project, it might be being fully present with your child during bedtime, or it might be taking a moment for self-care.

Remember, it’s not about doing everything—it’s about doing what’s important. When you give yourself permission to prioritize your time, you can engage more deeply in the present moment without feeling pulled in all directions.

Tip 2: Slow Down Your Movements

When you feel rushed or overwhelmed, your body and mind tend to go into overdrive. One of the easiest ways to combat this is by intentionally slowing down your movements. When we physically slow down, we help our minds settle as well.

For example:

When you’re dropping your kids off at school, even if you’re running late, slow down. Take a breath. What difference will those two extra minutes really make? By slowing down, you can actually enjoy those few moments with your kids rather than rushing through them in a haze.
When you feel like you don’t have enough time, try moving slower. Walk slower, talk slower, drink your coffee slower. By doing this, you help reduce the frantic energy and create a more peaceful, mindful state of being.

Tip 3: Shift from Quantity to Quality Time

There’s a lot of pressure on parents to spend as much time as possible with their kids. But research shows that quality time matters far more than the amount of time you spend. The key is being intentional during those moments, whether it’s 5 minutes or 5 hours.

When you’re with your kids, aim for focused connection. This might mean setting aside distractions like phones or work and being fully present, even if it’s for a short period. You’ll find that your kids feel more seen and connected when you’re mentally and emotionally there with them, even if the time together is brief.

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Tip 4: Embrace Imperfection to Practice Presence

One of the reasons we struggle with presence is the pressure to be “perfect” parents—always available, always on top of things, always doing it right. But perfection isn’t the goal. What’s far more important is showing up authentically, even when things are messy or imperfect.

Give yourself permission to let go of the pressure to do it all. Focus on what feels meaningful and be kind to yourself when things don’t go perfectly. Your kids don’t need you to be perfect; they need you to be real, loving, and present.

Tip 5: Practice Self-Care First

Here’s the counterintuitive part of staying present: the best way to be fully engaged with your kids is to take care of yourself first. It’s hard to show up for anyone when you’re running on empty. Prioritizing rest, boundaries, and time for yourself is essential to being a calm, present parent.

When you’re well-rested and emotionally grounded, you’ll have more energy and patience to be fully present with your children. Even small acts of self-care—like a walk, a short meditation, or taking a few deep breaths—can make a big difference in your ability to engage in the moment.

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Action Step: Start Small, Stay Consistent

Practicing presence doesn’t have to mean overhauling your life. Start small. Pick one or two moments in your day to be more intentional. Maybe it’s slowing down during school drop-off, or taking a breath before responding to your child when they ask for your attention.

As you build the habit of presence, you’ll notice that it becomes easier to stay in the moment—both with your family and with yourself.

Conclusion: Presence Isn’t About Perfection—It’s About Intention

At the end of the day, practicing presence is about being intentional. It’s about making small, mindful choices that allow you to slow down and connect more deeply with what’s happening around you. And remember, presence isn’t about doing it perfectly. It’s about showing up, even if things aren’t perfect, and giving yourself permission to focus on what truly matters.

So, take a breath, slow down, and ask yourself: What matters most right now?

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**Career Mum Coach | ACC Executive Coach**

Meet Tania!

With three energetic kids, I know what it’s like to have to juggle your career goals and desire to be a good parent. That’s why I’m so passionate about helping working mums manage your time in the best way, so you can spend quality time with your kids and still find the courage to go after what you want in life.